Making Peace.

Here's a little nugget to bring you into the weekend: making peace with someone or a situation never truly involves the other person. Making peace should always start and stop with you.

I can name very significant situations and relationships where I couldn't get closure or make peace with the person because either they weren't receptive, had moved on or they couldn't admit their part in the chaos. Some of these situations used to eat me up inside. I would over analyze and blame myself for the other's shortcomings and double my own. It became a toxic and unhealthy way to process not being able to have closure. It's only been through growth, prayer and self-awareness that I've been able to make peace with certain situations that plagued me. Harping on them for years didn't do me any good--so I made a conscientious effort to  make peace with them.

Making peace within myself stems to every facet of my life--so giving myself closure to some very deep rooted misfortunes have been the best thing I've ever done for myself. You won't always have the opportunity to get closure from someone, but why let that stop you from getting it? Give it to yourself. 

They carried all the emotional baggage of men who might die. Grief, terror, love, longing—these were intangibles, but the intangibles had their own mass and specific gravity, they had tangible weight.
— ― Tim O'Brien, The Things They Carried

So, put the weight of it all down. Stop carrying what you don't need and make peace.

Have a great weekend 20 Somethings.

xx,

brandisjaniese

Brandis Haynes